I'm done with peoples lies about me. - YouTube The first thing you notice is the children have no reaction. It is like they are completely desensitised to what is going on around them. At 5:29 This is where the tears of self-pity come in. Has this man stopped you having a relationship with your family? There is no evidence that he is in any way controlling or manipulated you. Where is something of him saying ‘My way or the highway.’ According to yourself, your family are the ones who want nothing to do with you. Your family say they don’t like this gent. So what? Some people prefer vanilla over chocolate ice cream and vice-versa. Or could be that little issue of you regularly saying he has physically harmed you? KC must be the best-case study of triangulation for psychology students. After all, wanting to triangulate every relationship is not what emotionally mature people do.. Ah, well we know that she knows the term because of her degree from such a well-respected international renowned centre of education. So, for us who have inferior knowledge on the subject, let’s put it in layman’s language. Triangling is where person one loves to bring person three into their argument with person two. Person three doesn’t want to be involved but is dragged in via manipulation. Triangulation is a tactic used to manipulate an interaction between two people who are not communicating directly with one another. It is problematic because a third person becomes involved in a situation that should be between the two individuals involved in the conflict. And we are only up to 7:42 minutes into this. Suddenly the search for a new victim-sorry partner- is on. This is quite a good first attempt at an online video profile for ‘ hookupsRUs’. Let us see what we learn at 10;09. Ah, now we find someone with such a high opinion of themselves. Also KC’s sense of entitlement is off the charts. Enjoy KC’s lovely description of her demands and everything owed to her. (Remember this is all based on her gift to the world by breathing). Hey, you KC, what’s all this between 10 minutes and 14 minutes? How can you expect others to be consistent and competent, when you can’t do it for yourself? KC doesn’t live the idea that she wants others to live. Why would anyone pay her for coaching them on ‘How to Be The Change You Need to Live Your Best Life’? She has been saying this for almost 12 years. Can anyone tell us what she has moved forward with/how her life is better? Evidence of the skills you have gained, your progress to your goals/improve your lifestyle? And just a suggestion….Don’t use other people as your excuse/barrier. Stop blaming everyone else. You are laying the responsibility of all your deficits, failure to write the fictional book, to acquire this land and a retreat, etc…is all the fault of everyone but yourself. As you would say ‘Take off the mask’ KC, you are so predictable! By 18:30, you attempt emotional blackmail. And what is this thing about a stabbing? Can’t you understand at minute 24 why other campaigners don’t want to work with you? Could it be your obsessive nature or your scams and getting the wrong type of attention? We love how you brush those ideas away and think the reason is because people can’t understand your unique process of thinking. Oh, and if those children at 28:00 are crying for their father, then he is clearly important to them. It is fascinating to see how you attempt to alienate them from their father. We have found the KC play book. Cause an argument with the father that frustrates him so much, he has to get away from YOU. And then you stop him taking the children with him. Oh, look at this, you manage to give those children almost a whole minute of your time! Well, as expected, you then have to turn the conversation all about you. Oh course it was about your son ‘joining in’ with his father making comments about yourself. KC needs to be more rational. KC, why are you expecting this gent to suddenly change? He has always made clear and told you his priorities, his interests, his lifestyle. Why would he suddenly change and become the guy with a stable income and give you the money you want to have the lifestyle you want or think you deserve? WOW! She actually pays attention to a child and has a debate about cake and being hungry and not hungry. And now we are back to the all the jobs the children’s father must do. (How often is this ‘car flipping’?) KC- you clearly don’t know how to ‘run a tight ship’. That is really, really funny! Have you ever objectively looked at your house? And what is this stuff at minute 41 that you always thought it was the man’s job to pay all the bills and leave enough for you to go shopping when you just feel like it. Do you not realising that you are mis selling yourself? You claim that your message is about taking control of your life and being self-reliant. But yet, you have proven over and over, that your capability with money is zero, you’re planning ahead skills are terrible, and your ability to prepare for unexpected costs is non-existent.
The more things don’t change, the more things stay the same way. So let us explore how well KC's career and life are going- especially with the amount of help, support, and personal mentoring that she claims to have had. This week has been very busy. The number of falsehoods and misunderstandings of the law by KC is unbelievable. We just had so much info to work with, we had a hard time selecting what was the most important. So, we checked and found a ‘live’ that demonstrates everything that is happening currently is the same as was happening 2-3 years ago. *Gaslighting *Triangulating *Lack of concern or interest in two small children *Delusions *Paranoia So let us go back in time. Luckily for any reading this, a member of the team got stuck watching 90 minutes of her drivel, self-pity/overinflated ego and taking notes. There is a follow ‘live’ on the same date with other information. Then there is another ‘live’ just to complete the trilogy. So yes, someone actually had to watch three. Before we start, as always, the team has NO interest in having KC’s partner (who she has started calling ‘her baby daddy') and their children caught up in the mess she has created around herself. We think there is something else in her history. Here is the recap of live 1 on 13 May 2020: (Daily Video Update Part One) What Is Triangulation in Psychology? 06/07/2021 · Triangulation is a method used by selfish individuals to comfort and protect their egos. Typically, there's limited to no communication between the two triangulated people except through the person doing the manipulating. It may appear in various ways, but all are about dividing and conquering or putting people against each other. Triangulation: Summary and Final Words: Triangulation is when a toxic or manipulative person, often a person with strong narcissistic traits, brings a third person into their relationship in order to remain in control. There will be limited or no communication between the two triangulated individuals except through the manipulator. It may appear in different forms, but all are about divide and conquer, or playing pe… V represents different roles that the people can play; it is not the people themselves, but a role. The roles interlock and... What is Narcissist Triangulation And Easy 6 Ways To Stop It 28/08/2020 · Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Professor of Psychology at California State University, calls narcissist triangulation a “psychological threesome that you didn’t consent to.” It’s where the narcissist brings a third party into your relationship, engineering a rivalry, usually to gain some kind of control or power over you. Reading Suggestions:
By this point, the team member lost the will to live and was desperately scrapping a scab to stay awake! So, here is the roundup of the rest: Why is she so obsessed with telling people that they can’t judge her because she is so unique and has loads of special skills and knowledge? How many of these supposed injunctions has she filed? How many applications have been successful? KC- At what point will you understand that the Family Court is not about you and your welfare? The court is only interested in the welfare of the children. Notice how KC treats her children as a distraction from her ‘work’. She tells these children to just find something to do because she is doing ‘very important work’. KC- giving sweets to children is not a good move. And you wonder why they need such extensive dental treatment so young! All you are teaching these children is that they are not your first priority. Yet, out of nowhere, we are supposedly back in Utopia. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZgMdCkBaciA Also why is so many of her educational and instructive videos being pulled by youtube?
What has changed in 11 years KC? (Quote from https://www.pressreader.com/uk/daily-mail/20101023/282892317021389?fbclid=IwAR3KUx47_eP4bxolu2fGX1bzyj2n2gkVW_zqTZKb2Inp9fWIZ6FQAh79bBA ) SHE lives in a four-bedroom townhouse on a new estate, with an £18,000 Mazda in the drive and a 42in high-definition plasma television in the living room. Kellie Cottam’s lifestyle may hint at hard work and success. But the Sky+ satellite, games consoles, and toys scattered on the floor were all amassed not from long hours in the office, but through the £37,000 a year – tax-free – she rakes in through benefits. The single mother-of-four yesterday described the welfare system as her ‘breadwinner’ and said she would need to earn an annual salary of £60,000 to make it worth her while to work and maintain her lifestyle. Her case emerged days after Chancellor George Osborne promised that single families would no longer be able to claim more than £500 a week. Miss Cottam yesterday admitted some people may consider her ‘public enemy number one’. But she described the benefits system as a ‘mindset trap’ which she was desperate to escape. The 32-year-old, who collects £3,077.20 a month in income support, child benefit, housing benefit, and incapacity benefits, said: ‘I’ve got four children with three different dads. I was expelled from school. I couldn’t survive without benefits.’ Miss Cottam, from Chorley, Lancashire, said she started claiming benefits when she got divorced a decade ago. Miss Cottam suffers from a condition called Ehlers Danlos syndrome, which stops her body from producing collagen and results in repeated dislocations of her joints and ligament problems. It leaves her in and out of a wheelchair and she needs help from a social worker and a care worker to look after her children – Liam, 14, Daniel, 12, Aaron, 19 months, and Faith, six months. Miss Cottam, a psychology graduate, agreed the benefits system needs to be overhauled because it ‘stops people from hitting that point where they have to go out and do it for themselves. But she added: ‘I’m not willing to go to work for less than I’ve got. I would have to work 48 hours a week and look after four children and a house, with a disability. I would kill myself.’ Miss Cottam said that due to her disability the only way she could work would be to be self-employed. She is currently receiving training from Leyland-based Business Venture Group Ltd, with a view to launching her own business to help people do the same. She said: ‘Benefits should never be a way of life but a bridge to support you through a transition time. ‘No one is pointing a gun at my head and saying “you can’t work”. It’s a mindset trap. ‘Being in the system takes away personal responsibility. The longer you’re in it the harder it is to climb out of a big pit. ‘If I can build a ladder out of the benefits system for me, with my disability and with four children to look after, then I can build one for anyone.’ 23 October 2010 by Andy Dolan
KC, with regards to the video below: Who is this Lisa you keep talking about? Minute 13:35 When have we ever asked your adopted children to reach out to us/contact us? We would love to see your proof. KC, it is exactly because of rants and raves like this, that we do not publish any messages sent to the site. We do not quote or name anyone. We feel a responsibility to protect the welfare and duty to protect people from your threats of physical and emotional abuse. As always with KC, everyone else is wrong and is the bully. KC, you really need to take off the mask off and look in the mirror. KC really needs to read her own Court of Appeal documents. Even the appeal judge found you to be a danger to those children. Constantly saying you are going to abduct them, did not help you. You are the only parent that the team has come across who is denied permission to respond to the letterbox that the adopters send. For one last time KC your ex signed the adoption papers, therefore the adoption was perfectly legal, sorry to be the harbinger of doom, but that's the truth. So you see KC or should we say KA, now who is hiding behind mirrors? Oh before we forget: Since when do judges 'Hold someone incompetent to the court'? I think KC means 'in contempt.' Also, judges don't care about your emotional pleas. If someone shows your level of uncontrolled emotions and bile, you will just be asked to leave or you will be removed. Lastly, we are just astounded at the language you use in front of your children, also the vile threats that you hurl out to random people, get help KC.
We have a question...
Who are these two ladies that you think are part of our Team?
We have no one who lives in the North of Wales, sorry.
We would like to offer a friendly warning about your abuse and threats to us, as you are aware there is a law about Defamation, and you have well and truly broken it, yet you complain about others.
Firstly, we will be the first to publically apologize to Dean if the info that you have stated on your PUBLIC space is inaccurate, (teaches us to believe your rants). He is an incredible gent, to put up with the crap you accuse him of on nearly a daily basis, (again by your own words).
I also suggest that before you threaten us, again, you read up on the laws surrounding
publically available information:
Can public domain information be used?
Now we have cleared that up, let us look at your threats, you will never find a threat within this site, (unless it's a report of threats you have made in your YouTube videos).
We have nothing against you as a person, nothing at all, however, we do have enough actual material where you have actually physically threatened entire families with actual physical violence.
You have threatened multiple people in your YouTube rants (which are easily located in your videos). The police have spoken to you on multiple occasions with respect to your threats to others. NEVER to us. We are not in any breach of Terms and Conditions which is why we are still here.
One of the first things that we would like to clear up this year is your insistence on having a First Class Degree in Psychology.
We have a couple of questions for you, (these are based on your own words):
1. Can we please see a copy of this degree?
2. You stated in one of your earlier videos that this degree took you 2 years PART TIME,
3. You also stated that you had to take a year out after your first year for Risk Assessment, during which time you became a prostitute to pay bills,
4. As you are no doubt aware to do a full degree takes 3 years FULL TIME. NOT 2 years part-time to complete,
5. It sounds like you have an HND, not a full degree,
6. If this was the case of your learning line there is no way you would have received a 1st class degree as this will automatically open up opportunities which I am sure you can tell us about,
7. Lastly, there are lots of additional things you will need to do before you ever get near a court as a supposed expert in this field.
Again these are all your own words!
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